His 6 Tips for Women Seekers

I asked an experienced Internet Boomer guy to give me some quick tips for beginners from a man's perspective. Here are his 6 tips.

1) Women on dating sites ANSWER all your mail even if it's just no thanks. Better to be brutally honest than keep us in the dark.

2) MEN ARE VISUAL CREATURES. (so are women ) We don't want to see your dog cat. Put on your best (and newest) picture and so should us guys! IF you do agree to meet, don't wear something like you would when you just have to run out to Hy Vee for some milk.

3) If there's no chemistry that's OK. He's out there somewhere don't get discouraged. I look at it this way. I was born in Chicago. Had I stayed in Chicago all my life I probably would have met my Ms right there and lived happily ever after (ok maybe not forever but humor me) I moved to the suburbs Had I stayed there met Ms right etc, I left for Cedar Rapids Iowa, Then Omaha, then Georgia, Then…. So in reality POTENTIALLY there were 6 SIX places that to this day still contain that woman of my dreams I never met.

4) Treat the first get together as a mutual meeting of potential friends, not a date. A DATE is when A guy asks a girl out and he pays. A woman should want to invest in her future relationship as well. If it goes beyond that then I'll buy the dinner you get the tip etc.is a great way to not break the guys bank. Figure something out this is 2010 not 1957 and times have changed. Many women make more than the men these days. This is not a time for bruised egos or for a woman to say that she is old fashioned and the man pays regardless. That woman may find that she is not only old fashioned but also an old maid if she keeps that attitude!

5) Affection is ok. If the chemistry's there and things are going well then hold hands wink smile but NOWHERE is it written when or IF you have to have sex. Leave something to the guys imagination for later (remember men are visual->imagination->attraction) OK I think if the relationship is over a few months old and you have BOTH decided that it's monogamous then let your moral compass be your guide. Women remember there are PLAYERS out there (men remember that too ) don't open up your vulnerability too soon. cause if you get hurt you may emotionally shut yourself out of the next and possibly best guy that’s right for you.

6) IF IT GETS SERIOUS to the point of commitment please go to relationship counseling to work out any "issues" or "deal breakers" you might have. Get the book "The Five Languages of Love". It's also on CD or the book Marriage Fitness by Mort Fertel it too is on CD.

I replied: love #4 and #5 !!!

Since I often experience compatibility and rarely experience Chemistry, if I do and it seems mutual, I go with it...I've discovered that some guys can either 'fake' Chemistry for a few months or don't know enf about what they seek that they mistake lust for Chemistry. Which makes them seem to b in the same place as I...