Dating over 40, Face Reality

Good Morning America had a segment yesterday about a 52 year old woman who "faced her fear" and re-entered the dating scene after years of abstinence [not the same as sexual famine].

Remember that old book, Face Your Fear & Do It Anyway ?

That's the bottom line. It is not going to get any easier and tomorrow you will b one day older.

The fears are legion and long: fear of picking the wrong Mr. Right; fear of removing clothing and not being as virile, as attractive; fear of failure; fear of people finding out (the old fashioned stigma is no longer viable); fear of the unknown; fear of losing your privacy; fear of going on a date with an undesirable; fear for your safety; etc.

Speaking of entering the 21st Century. Throw out all those antiquated notions. Who cares who does the asking? (old thought=Don't make the first move).

The obtacles seem insurmountable. You haven' tdated since high school? News Flash: It's just as awkward. Sorry. U got thru it then, you can get thru it now.

Motivation is the key. Get Motivated! (see Chapter 1 to find out how). Rely on the younger generation if U r computer challenged. Be creative. Be assertive.

So many are hesitant. For Boomers, opportunities are fewer and different. Face the facts. You cannot concor your fear. But U can get started. Some wise person said, "99% of success is showing up."

GMA's family therapist, Terry Real, suggests that you take baby steps and enlist help where you need it. This lady enlisted the help of her teenage daughters.
My book, In Search of Your Last 1st Date, addresses re-entry fears throughout the book, but explicitly in Chapter 7 (On Your Mark, Get Set, Go-Ready, Willing, and Able to Get Real(istic) on pgs 123-149). Check out Chapters 4, The "F" Word.

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