Part II, “Why Can’t We Find Our SoulMate?”

Reason #6: Denial.

In an earlier post, I asked U to ‘stay tuned’ as I tried to answer this question. I told you that I am, like U, a work in process. And since this topic is at the crux of the problem and the solution, it must b worked on, compiled, revisited and revised. Which is, as U already know, a Hobby Horse of mine.

Oh not another ‘come 2 Jesus meeting’ with ourselves? What’s left to dissect? How easy it is to peer over our ego and diagnosis others’ ‘problem’ and find the fatal flaws that keep them from finding the Love of their Lives. It is next to impossible to turn around the binoculars and pierce our own souls. It’s a basic instinctual survival trick to keep us from putting a gun to our head for relief from reality.

Have U ever noticed that when we r not vigilant, the veil of denial is accidentally lifted. Walking down the street a retail window becomes a mirror and reflects our image when we are not prepared to shroud it with our minds eye. Is my butt really that big? No way! Must b a defect in the glass.

If you’re like me, U feel some special younger age (mine is 32) on the inside, therefore, how can the calendar say we r 62? Must b some mistake. Last I looked in the mirror, I didn’t look a day over 50. I’ve looked the same for years. Until one vulnerable morning, while putting on our make-up, we all of a sudden do a double take. Where did those 12 years come from?! I didn’t notice those sagging jowls and hooded eyes yesterday morning. Another survival trick to keep us ‘in the game’. Guess Mother Nature thought we could handle a dose of reality this morning. Not sure she was right. Fortunately, we won’t have to endure another such moment for another decade. Whew!

How does denial relate 2 not finding our SoulMate? What are you pretending not to know? Do U have unrealistic expectations? Do U seek that which does not exist? A reality check might b in order. It’s not Fuhgedda-boudit, but Think-about-it.

Stay tuned for Part III: our fears and self-sabatoge.